Finding Steady Ground in Uncertain Times

Change is one of the few constants in life yet it often arrives uninvited – a job shift, a health challenge, a relationship ending or the loss of someone we love. Even positive transitions can stir up stress. When change collides with grief or uncertainty, it’s easy to feel unmoored. Understanding how these experiences affect us and learning healthy ways to respond can help us move forward with resilience and self-compassion.

Stress and change are closely linked. When routines shift or expectations pile up, the brain interprets these disruptions as threats, triggering physical and emotional reactions. Grief adds another layer. It isn’t limited to bereavement; people grieve lost opportunities, lost identities or the life they imagined. Grief is not linear and it doesn’t follow a schedule. It can show up as sadness, anger, numbness, fatigue or even irritability. Recognizing these reactions as normal human responses – not personal failures – is a powerful first step.

Managing stress and grief begins with acknowledging what you’re feeling. Many people try to “push through” but unprocessed emotions tend to resurface in more disruptive ways. One way to help the nervous system settle and head toward healthier coping is to put a name to your experience  – “I’m overwhelmed,” “I’m scared,” “I’m grieving.” 

Small and consistent practices can make a meaningful difference:

• Create structure. During times of upheaval, simple routines provide a sense of stability. Regular sleep, meals and movement anchor the body and mind.
• Stay connected. Isolation intensifies stress. Reaching out to trusted friends, family or community groups can offer comfort and perspective.
• Set boundaries. When life feels heavy, it’s okay to say no, limit obligations or step back from draining situations.
• Practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same patience you’d offer someone you care about. Healing takes time.

Grief deserves space. Whether the loss is recent or long past, allowing yourself to feel it – without judgment – is essential. Some people find comfort in journaling, rituals or creative expression. Others prefer quiet reflection or physical activity. There is no “right” way to grieve. What matters is giving yourself permission to move at your own pace.

Change, stress, grief and loss are deeply human experiences. They reshape us, sometimes painfully, but they also reveal our capacity for resilience. By acknowledging our emotions, leaning on supportive relationships and caring for our wellbeing, we create space for healing and growth. Even in difficult seasons, it’s possible to find steadier ground and move forward with renewed clarity and strength. 

USC-VHH Community Resource Center for Aging stands ready to help you navigate life’s unexpected challenges. Call us to for a brief consultation or schedule a time to go over your situation. 

In March a six-week support group will launch called Grief and Loss: Beyond Blue. There is no cost to attend; we ask you to make a reservation and commit to connecting with one another each week. Call us at (818) 949-4033 or email to Aging-Resources@med.usc.edu.