Renewing – or Refreshing – Friendships
I am a firm believer that people are put in your life for “a reason, a season or for life.” Last weekend I had the chance to revisit some friendships that had changed over the years either due to the passage of time or change in circumstances.
On Saturday afternoon I headed to Granada Hills to spend some time with girls (at right) I had gone to school with (some dating back to elementary school). Unlike the Crescenta Valley where many CVHS graduates either return to or never leave the area, in Sun Valley where I went to school it is more common that people relocate even if it is rather nearby as is my case or that of our hostess Teri.
Nine of us girls shared dinner and stories in Teri’s beautiful backyard. Some of us were married for years, others divorced and remarried, some divorced and still single. We shared stories of where we were in our lives and how we arrived there. We laughed when revealing past crushes and were surprised to learn the backstories of some of our former schoolmates. These girls were a part of my life for a very long time and I’m glad I had the chance to spend some time with them.
On Sunday, Steve and I made our way to the home of friends with whom we used to share a lot of time but as circumstances changed over the years that time seemed more elusive. Fortunately, it was easy – and comfortable – to slip back into our old habits. Sharing good food, good wine and good company, it wasn’t difficult to remember why we used to spend so much time together. Like my schoolgirl chums who I spent hours talking to, some of these folks were also instrumental in the decisions I made in my life … raising my children, joining organizations and even starting this paper. Though our relationships have changed over the years, there is no denying the importance we all played in each other’s lives.
And while there’s no telling if that same significance will once again come into play, it was nice to relish its memory while sitting around enjoying the company of people we still call our friends.